Gender reveal party ideas

Gender reveal party ideas

You made the decision to find out the sex of your baby – congratulations! This is a very exciting time! For my first baby, I kept traditional and didn’t find out. But for my second, I mixed things up as I knew I wanted to be ready for baby number two!

How to find out: At your 18-22 week ultrasound. You can have the ultrasound technician tell you or have them write the gender in an envelope which you can use to  look at later in private or give to a balloon store,  cake decorator, etc. We chose to find out in the ultrasound. There is something special about finding that news out with your partner when you can view your baby in real time. This also gave us time to internalize and process the good news. 

    Ideas for the gender reveal party: Whether you already know the gender or plan to be surprised during the party, we’ve listed some top ideas: 

    1. Big black balloon with pink or blue glitter inside
    2. Decorated box with pink or blue balloons inside
    3. Cake or cupcakes with pink or blue icing inside
    4. Opening a gift with a girl or boy baby outfit
    5. Hitting a bat to a ball with powder inside
    6. Pulling pink or blue from a mini wishing well

    When to have your gender reveal party: 
    Pick a few days or even a week after the ultrasound. When you invite your friends, be sure to tell them that the party date depends on if the little one reveals itself during the ultrasound! Have a back up date in mind. We went with a Friday at 5:30-7:30 p.m. Keep in mind the event goes by fast!

    Party schedule: Keep the food and entertainment simple. But have fun! Let people know in advance what time you will do the actual reveal so they aren’t late.  If you already know the gender, keep conversation during the party light as people will try to get the information from you. 

    Sample party timeline:

    5:30- welcome and guests vote the sex

    5:50- guests eat and socialize

    6:10- announce that reveal will start soon (this allows people to get cameras out, go to the bathroom etc)

    6:15- best reveal ever!!!!

    6:20- Jell-O shots

    6:30- more food, cake, decor

    Party decor and food ideas:

    • Themed invites
    • Gender voting station
    • Moustache or hearts with pins for guests to wear what they guess
    • Photo of ultrasound
    • Theme table of pink and blue
    • Pink and blue coolaide
    • Pink and blue cupcakes or other desert treats
    • Beer for boys, coolers for girls
    • Old wive’s tale poster 
    • Pink and blue napkins, plates, etc. 

    Farewell my baby, hello big brother! 

    Farewell my baby, hello big brother! 

    My first born, my other half, my night time cuddles, my smile, my everything. It’s amazing how difficult it is to embrace change. While I’m very excited to meet our newest addition, there is however, a part of me that is saddened by the thought of how things will be different – my threesome pod of mom, dad, and my baby boy will become four. 

    Will I be able to give both my kids the same amount of love and attention? Will I get the same deep bond with both? Will my oldest feel abandoned when I can’t play because we have a newborn? Will I be able to handle motherhood of two little ones?

    The answer is, of course! But the reality is, things will be different. There is a very unique bond you build with your first child.  So as you prepare for the exciting arrival of baby number two, consider the following ideas to make the transition easier.

    1. Have a date with your first born. Go to the zoo, go swimming, whatever is special for you both. Spend an entire day completely devoted to your little one. No phone, no friends. Just you and your babe! 
    2. Have a second date with your first born and include dad. Dad will be experiencing change also, let’s not forget about him. This will help him cherish special moments also. 
    3. Share your feelings. Feel free to share your thoughts, fears, and excitement with your partner in advance. This way you can all relate and work together on any obstacles. 
    4. Involve your toddler in baby preparation. This will help both you and your first born get used to the idea of sharing with the new baby. This could include; setting up the nursery, shopping for baby items, stocking up on groceries, etc. The age of your first born will really help determine what baby preparation activities you do together. 
    5. Finish your first borns baby book. Once baby comes along, it will be more difficult to spend quality time on this. 
    6. Write your first born keepsake letters. These letters capture important memories and messages for your first born to open when they are older. Keep these in a safe place, like a safe or timecapsule box. Be sure to date when you wrote them!
    7. Think about timing of other changes. For example, try not to potty train, switch your toddlers bedroom, change child care all at the same time when baby is expected to arrive. 
    8. Spend some time alone. Get a sitter and do something for yourself before things get busy at home again. 
    9. Go on a date with your partner. Take time to enjoy each others company and remember what alone time feels like. It’s smart to continue dates through your life…not just one time historical date events. 

    Pregnancy after a preemie – what to expect

    Pregnancy after a preemie – what to expect

    You will be excited and scared. You will try to control the uncontrollable. Your feelings will be mixed and there is nothing wrong with that. Enjoy the beauty of being pregnant again and stay strong for you and your growing family.

    It starts with excitement. I was immediately happy when I found out I was expecting my second child. I was so excited I had spent the entire morning planning how I would surprise my husband with the news. It was perfect! The rest of the day and next few days to come were full of positive energy. It had been a year and a half since our first baby was born 8 weeks early. That came with 53 days in the hospital, 6 months of blood in his stool, and living the first year of his life in isolation at home due to severe immunity deficiency. But finally I felt normal. But only for a moment. Filling my thoughts with naïve first world questions, is it a girl or a boy, what will I name it,  am I showing –  but then the night came and so did the flashbacks of my previous pregnancy. I was scared. This is a normal feeling when something so traumatic has happened in your life. You may have ups and downs throughout the pregnancy, but the important part is to recognize how lucky you are to be pregnant and growing a bundle of joy! By gosh you deserve a moment of happiness.

    Reaction of others. Probably the most notable part, is the reaction of others. My dear friends and family were very supportive and caring. However, you will get the odd ball who may say ‘I am surprised you went for another after all that’. I encourage you to say thank you, and perhaps put them on your acquaintance list. Honestly though, some people just don’t think when they talk. As a preemie mother graduate, you reserve the right to filter what you WANT to hear.  But do keep in mind, anyone who loves you is down right scared and is praying for you and your baby everyday.

    Bedrest with a toddler. This is a tough one. The new health buzz is that bedrest hasn’t been proven to help prevent premature labour. In saying that, any preemie mother knows that is all your doctor can suggest as a last resort.  At 12 weeks I went on modified rest where I could not lift my 25 pound toddler and had to limit my standing/walking. Very difficult with a 21 month old. This will be a defining moment where you start to balance the needs of your toddler with the needs of your growing baby. Don’t feel guilty. This is short term loss for long term gain. Find strategies that work for you. For example, get a step stool so you can help your toddler get into and out of the crib. Start changing diapers on the floor. Consider early potty training. Cuddle your toddler on the couch instead of carrying him/her.  It’s amazing how quickly your toddler will adapt to the situation.

    Having to ask and accept help. High risk pregnancies result in modification of your day to day activities. As mothers, we often find it difficult to accept help. You will need to ask and accept help, no matter how uncomfortable you feel. I had to watch my husband take on all my mother and wife responsibilities in the home during the last few months of my second pregnancy. Very difficult, and you can’t help but feel useless and guilty. As hard as it is, recognize you have an important role to play by protecting that growing baby and limiting your effort! Say yes to help!

    Handling ongoing preemie challenges. While you are busy with being pregnant, you may find yourself still faced with ongoing challenges for your first preemie. This may be additional doctor check ups, developmental delays, etc. This is a time you must be a super mom and lean on any support your friends and family can provide you. Specifically to help you attend all the appointments for yourself and your preemie.

    Efficient in your appointments. It is amazing how precise and efficient you will become in your prenatal doctor appointments. You have learned so much in your first pregnancy. You will have specific questions that deserve specific answers. If you delivered early in a previous pregnancy you must be your own advocate and get in with a high risk doctor immediately. No one will do this for you.  Sometimes you may be on waiting lists for weeks, and this simply is unacceptable. So speak up!

    We do not know what the future holds, we will be strong and we will try to have the longest pregnancy we can!